“How To Deal With Backtalk”
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Parents,
Think back to the not-so-distant past when you couldn’t wait for your little one to say “Momma”, “Dadda”,
“Bye-bye”, “Thank-you” and all those other wonderful first words.
You were awed and amazed by everything they said. Now that they’ve become preschoolers though, their vocabulary is increasing daily, but now you wish they weren’t quite so verbal.
Our current Online Parenting Class video addresses this issue by offering practical advice and wisdom in dealing with a preschooler’s sassy backtalk in a way that will be pleasing to God while creating an atmosphere of positivity in your home. After you’ve watched the video, please feel free to get back to me in order to share one or two ways this video encouraged you in this area of your parenting journey.
https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/143995452/92cd3758b0
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Preschool Pastor
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Parents,
I hope you’ve had the opportunity to watch the parenting video that goes with this lesson.
The task of teaching your preschooler to use their words respectfully and politely can be challenging; especially since they don’t always understand when they’ve said something inappropriate.
Hopefully, however, the following tips will help you get the job done.
1.Speak to your preschooler the way you want them to speak to you and to others.
2.Don’t over-react. When your preschooler says something they shouldn’t, calmly but firmly explain that this isn’t a) a word they are allowed to use or b) this is not a nice way to talk. Follow this by giving them a good word to use and/or demonstrate the proper way to say what they said.
3.When your preschooler says something in a sassy or disrespectful voice, tell them to repeat what they said the right way.
4.Be consistent. Don’t allow your preschooler to sass you when they’re tired but not when they’re fully rested.
Your children are God’s gift to you. Treat them with all the TLC they deserve, and don’t forget to live God’s Word as you parent them through their preschool years.
“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” ~Ephesians 6:4
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” ~Proverbs 22:6
Partnering with you,
Preschool Pastor
Video Script
Don’t you wish that your sweet little baby would just stay sweet!?
Unfortunately, though your baby is human, and that means at times they are going to get angry and even start to say mean things.
Dealing with your child’s back talk can be frustrating. Here’s some ideas on how to handle back talk in a healthy way.
Kids start back talking around age two. Once they really “find their words” and start talking more, they discover how to say “No” more often. As they get older their back talk can come more advanced and more frequent. Sometimes kids talk back because they want to work parents up, they see that it might get your attention or give them power.
Often, it’s an experiment. Maybe they heard someone on TV, or a friend saying something like that, and they wanna know how you’ll react. Sometimes, they just wanna get their way. They wanna get out of chores or not do their homework.
Back- talk is a is a bit like a tube of toothpaste, once the words come out you can’t put them back in. We can’t tell them, you can’t talk to me like that because they already did.
So, one method to try is to refuse to give any power or significance to the “back talk”. When you respond with your own form of angry talk, you are just giving your child the result they might have wanted. That becomes a crazy cycle where everyone just ends up yelling at each other. What I recommend is if your child says something disrespectful to you, just say “it’s not okay to talk to me like that, I’ll be happy to try this conversation again when you have calmed down” with as little emotion as possible.
And then walk away. That’s right, I said walk away. That’s not ignoring your child, but rather it’s inviting your child to a respectful conversation. It’s also setting a boundary that you won’t participate in a disrespectful conversation.
Setting a great example is also very important. If you want your child to speak respectfully to you, make sure that you’re speaking respectfully to your child and to your spouse. Whatever the usual emotional tone is in your home, that’s what your child is going to think is normal.
Our words are very powerful. We need to learn to use them respectfully. Remember, the goal here is not to suppress your child’s anger. Anger is actually a very useful emotion. It tells us that “something needs to change”. But rather, you’re teaching your child to remain respectful even though they are angry.
Ephesians 4:26 says “In your anger, do not sin”. Notice that it didn’t say, “Don’t get angry”. What it said was to remain under control while you are angry.
This is the skill you are teaching your child when you are addressing their “Back Talk”
TIP: Choose a hashtag for your tweets and use it consistently. That will tell Twitter to store a list of your tweets on one place for later reference.
Tweet One: Oh be careful little mouth what you say #Wordsmatter . #urchurchparentministry
Tweet Two: What you say & how you say it are equally important #Wordsmatter #urchurchparentministry
Tweet Three: No sass allowed in our house. #Wordsmatter #urchurchparentministry
Tweet Four: Speak to others the way you want to be spoken to #Wordsmatter #urchurchparentministry
Tweet Five: Be fair, firm & consistent when teaching kids how to speak politely #Wordsmatter #urchurchparentministry
Tweet Six: If you want your kids to talk nicely you need to do the same #Wordsmatter #urchurchparentministry
Tweet Seven: Children really do learn what they live #Wordsmatter #urchurchparentministry
Tweet Eight: If you say it, your preschooler will repeat it #Wordsmatter #urchurchparentministry
Tweet Nine: Don’t tell anyone anything you don’t want your preschooler to share with the world #Wordsmatter #urchurchparentministry