Raising Kids That Lose Well
Email 1
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Subject Line: Raising Kids That Lose Well, Part One
Dear Parents,
How do your kids respond when things don’t go well?
What happens when your kids lose?
This month we tackle those very questions with our monthly Online Parenting Class.
We want to help you raise kids that lose well, lose with class, and learn from moments
of struggle. We know everyone wants to win, but we also understand we can lose more
than we win. How are you helping your child prepare for those moments?
Look for a second email later in the month where we will give you a few more tips about
raising kids that lose well!
https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/335465535/0628eeb6af
Children’s Pastor
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Subject Line: Raising Kids That Lose Well, Part 2
Dear Parents,
How your kids respond and react to losing matters, and this month, we have been
talking about raising kids that lose well.
The video gave some great tips, but we provide you with one more piece of advice for
raising kids who lose well.
How a parent responds when they don’t win or get their way shapes the way their
child responds when they lose.
Your child learns to deal with loss from the way you deal with failure. How are you
responding to life as it comes at you? How do you talk about others when you don’t get
your way? How do you deal with the challenge? Your kids are taking cues from you.
Breathe deep. Thankfully, you are not the only factor. Your child’s personality is a
significant factor in how they deal with losing, but you are one part of the equation. This
month evaluate what you are modeling for them and make adjustments. Small
adjustments can make a huge impact over time.
Children’s Pastor
Video Script
Raising Kids That Lose Well
Welcome to this month’s online parenting class. Thank you for blocking off time to work
on your parenting. We pray each month this is helpful to you.
This month we are going to help you think about how to raise kids that lose well! Yes, I
said that correctly, this is not a mistake. We want to help you prepare your kids to have
success when they lose. When we talk about losing we are talking about any moment
when things don’t go like we want them to. It could be losing in the classroom. It could
be losing a close friendship. It could be losing games in the sport they play or having to
sit on the bench instead of starting. All of our kids are going to face times when they
lose…how will they handle it? What will their response be?
Let’s take this idea a little further down the road. Your child will grow up and you already
know that they will face seasons of losing. They will encounter a challenge in life where
they don’t get what they want. Helping our kids know how to lose well now is going to
help them lose with class later.
Here are a few tips to help your kids lose well…
Celebrate the process as much as the final result.
We all love to win but the fun that winning brings only comes through the process. We
oftentimes get so fixed on achievement that we miss all the joy of being on a team,
striving together with teammates, and the lessons we learn on the journey. The process
of striving for a goal is as important as the end result. We have to remind kids how
proud we are of them for going on the journey and not just celebrating the final result.
Stop blaming and encourage learning.
When we lose it’s easy to blame. Blame to coach. Blame the teacher. Blame the
weather. Blame the surprise problem that caught us off guard. What could happen if we
spent as much time learning when we lose as blaming others? When we stop blaming
and start learning we actually set our kids up for future success!
Celebrate others when they win.
This is so important for kids to start early in life. We all need to learn how to celebrate
with others when they win. There is nothing worse than people who tear others down
when they don’t win. This habit starts early, so help your child to strive to celebrate with
others when they win.
If you guide your kids toward these three principles of losing well then they will become
kids that lose well! Your influence matters, so show them the way.
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Tweet One: When kids don’t win, it’s the perfect time to help them learn rather than blame.
Tweet Two: Teaching our kids to lose well today helps them lose with class later.
Tweet Three: Celebrating with others when they win is as important as winning.
Tweet Four: How kids respond when they lose or don’t get their way reveals their character.
Tweet Five: Raising kids that lose well produces kids of deep character.
Tweet Six: The process of striving for a goal is as crucial as a result.
Tweet Seven: What could happen if we spent as much time learning when we lose as blaming others?