Disrespectful Speech and Attitudes
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Subject Line: Disrespectful Speech and Attitudes, Part One
Greeting Parents:
I trust your month is going well and things are going great with your family. I am excited to be sending out another great parenting video for this month. I hope these videos have been helpful and an encouragement. This month’s video is about the Disrespectful Speech and Attitudes.
Just like the crazy weather outside, our children and families go through seasons as well. As our children grow and mature, there are seasons where our children will struggle with choosing the right words and attitudes.
Our desire as parents is for them to use their manners and have a great attitude in all situations, but we know there are those moments. Sometimes the moments seem like they come out of nowhere, when our child/children suddenly respond with words or actions that are not acceptable.
What are we do in those moments? How do we respond? How should we respond?
This month’s video gives us three great, simple hints to take on these moments with our children and reflect also on our own words and attitudes. I hope you find this video as helpful as I did.
As always my prayers are with you and your home.
https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/257630661/1eb98c8932
In Him,
Children’s Pastor
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Subject Line: Disrespectful Speech and Attitudes, Part 2
“Watch your attitude!” “I better not hear that come out of your mouth again!” Are those things you feel like you say too often around your home? Do you feel like you are the point of no return with your children’s speech and attitude? You are going to love this month’s parenting video we are sharing with you!
This month’s video is jam-packed with just what you need, with three quick challenging steps to get you and your child unstuck from this cycle and season of attitude and disrespect.
You do not want to miss out this moment of encouragement for your day…week…month!!
The three keys you will be learning are:
Looking in the Mirror. Your children reflect you for better or worse, make sure you are giving them something worth mirroring
Limit Bad Influence. Be care who and what is influencing your child/children’s attitudes and levels of respect. It may not be who or what you think?
Challenge the Bad and Reward the Good. What is reward it repeated. What is being rewarded in your home.
As you continue to work through each season in your child’s life, know that I am available to talk and pray with you. I would also be willing and available to talk through each of the points of this video with you, if you would like to set up a time soon.
Respectfully,
Children’s Pastor
Video Script
Disrespectful Speech and Attitudes
Please and Thank You. The moment I put those 2 words together we think about manners and the way we behave around other people. When we drop our kids off to spend the night at a friends house most of us look them in the eye and remind them of one final bit of instruction. “Make sure and say please and thank you!”
The way our kids talk and behave matters to us as parents. This month in our online parenting class we want to process what we should do when our kids are off the rails with disrespectful talk and attitudes. Don’t worry…there is hope.
Even the best kids go through seasons where they push the boundaries of their attitudes and the words they use to show defiance. Words and attitudes are just an outward expression of what is going on inside our kids. Let’s just go ahead and admit that they are not always little angels. Kids want their way. As your kids get older and they don’t get their way they will often lash out with words and attitudes that catch us off guard. The question is, how we will respond, and how can we guide them in a different direction?
How we respond is critical! When our kids act out verbally or with disrespectful attitudes, many times we lash back out at them with words and with our own attitudes. This teaches them that this is the normal way to respond when we don’t het our way. Raising your parental volume over your child’s behavior is not going to help them actually change their response to not getting their way. The best response to disrespectful speech is actually calm, confident, respectful confrontation and clear direction. When you respond with confidence and clarity you are affirming your love for them but also exposing a different way to communicate. It’s easy to forget that our kids are learning how to deal with their emotions from us.
You are not always going to get this right, but you can, over time, learn to respond to emotional unhealth with emotional health. When your child lashes out they are just living in the moment. You can parent above the moment!
This month here are three steps to take if your child is stuck in a season of disrespect…
Look in the Mirror
Think back about how you are responding to people on the phone when you are around your child. How are you communicating with your spouse? How are you dealing with stress? Sometimes our kids are learning bad habits from us. Work hard to remember that you are being watched and listened to.
Limit Bad Influences
Often our children are learning bad relational habits from friends or the media they are consuming. There could be a friend that is really pulling your child in a bad direction with words and attitude. Limit that friend’s access and make sure to point out why they should not follow after those patterns. The influence could be coming from a character on TV or the Internet. Look into what they are consuming. Guard those influences.
Challenge the Bad & Reward the Good
Be quick to challenge disrespectful speech or attitudes but also be quick to reward the right words and attitudes. What is rewarded is repeated!
The way kids talk and their attitudes can be adjusted. You can do this! We are praying for you as you invest in your child this month.
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Tweet One: Words and attitudes are just an outward expression of what is going on inside our kids. #inwardoutward #luke635 #parenting #insideout
Tweet Two: Raising your parental volume over your child’s behavior is not going to help. #volumecontrol #parenting #notlouder #godlyparenting
Tweet Three: Best response to disrespectful speech is actually calm, confident, respectful confrontation and clear direction. #respondwell
Tweet Four: Children are a mirror of their parent’s attitudes and behavior. How is the reflection? #reflect #mirrormirror #parenting #lookingback
Tweet Five: Be quick to challenge disrespectful speech/attitudes but also be quick to reward the right words & attitudes. What is rewarded is repeated!
Tweet Six: Parent above the moment. #respondwell #parenting
Tweet Seven: Who and what is influencing your child? Is it good or bad? #guardthoseinfluences #parenting
Tweet Eight: Our kids are watching to see how we respond to situations. They learn what they see. #mirrors #parenting #respondwell