Moms and Sons
Email 1
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Subject Line: Moms and Sons, Part One
Greetings Parents:
If you are receiving this and you are a mom, this is especially for you. Dads, you
are welcome to listen in too because next month I will be writing to you. This
month’s Online Parenting Class is a special one because it is all about mother-son
relationships. I think all of you moms are really going to enjoy it!
What powerful encouragement and words of wisdom! A son’s relationship and
connection with his mom is a powerful thing. It truly shapes the kind of man he
will grow up to be, but it also will influence the kind of father and husband he will
choose to be as well.
I love the challenge to “stop trying to protect your boys and instead challenge
them toward adventure and self-discovery.” This is a huge truth for us as parents.
We want to protect our children and keep them from making mistakes. We know,
however, in the moments of falling and getting hurt we learn. This is especially
true for boys. Each scrape, bruise, and scar is a life lesson learned.
Moms look for those teachable moments to connect to the heart of your young man
in your home. As he excitedly tells you his story of heroics and adventure,
showing off that cut or scrape, don’t react, but rather interact.
I want to let you know that I am praying for moms in specific and real ways
this month when it comes to relationships with your sons! I am praying for God to
give you words to say, time to spend, and patience to listen!
https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/257631869/a84f593d80
In Him,
Children’s Pastor
Email 2
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Subject Line: Moms and Sons, Part 2
Hello, Moms!
How is your relationship with your son? Is it going well, or are you finding it
harder to connect to their heart as they are going older?
This month’s Online Parenting Class is for you! It is about 5 steps to
connecting/reconnecting to your son’s heart!
- Investing intentional time and doing intentional things with your son is a
powerful thing. Find the things they enjoy, and do life with them in those
things! - Find ways to show your support for your son, and speak words of
confidence in the good and the bad moments. - The best way to show your support and be intentional with your time is
simple…just show up. Presence is powerful in your relationship with your son! - Moms, you have a voice in your son’s life. Make sure you use it to encourage and not nag. Your voice and care will capture the heart of your son and communicate you care. This will give your son power, confidence, and life.
- The key to all of these things in your ears. You ask your son to listen to you,
but you also must learn to listen back. It is the only way you will hear his heart.
Let me know how I can help you process and live out each of these steps this month. My door, phone, and email is always open to you as a parent.
Children’s Pastor
Video Script
Moms and Sons
Moms and their sons have a unique bond. I’m so excited that this month we are going to block out time just to talk to moms of boys and process how to connect with their hearts for the long haul. The time and energy you invest in your son is a powerful force that shapes the future of their life.
Let me be clear about one thing. I’m not a mom, but I’m a son and my mom worked hard to build a meaningful relationship with all of my bothers. Her influence in our lives is still clear today in our lives.
No pressure mom. Your influence matters no matter what but there is one way to change the direction of your parenting of your son that will exponentially increase your influence. That one shift to make is simple but incredibly difficult for moms. Process this idea mom…
Stop trying to protect your boy, and, instead, challenge them toward adventure and self-discovery.
Most moms spend their whole parenting life trying to protect their boys from their wild selves. Moms make sure their boys have manners, are healthy, and stay safe. The problem is those things really don’t matter to any boy in elementary school or as a teenager. Boys are looking to figure out who they are and what adventure they can go on. They need someone to breath belief into their insecure souls.
You can be that voice. If you want to capture the heart of your son believe in them and empower them to do great things.
Invest intentional Time to Do Things with Them.
What is your son into? Find out and make some time for just you and him to spend time together around that passion. Music lover? Hit a concert. Sports fan? Go to a game. Actor? Then make sure and take them to the theatre. The common denominator is you encouraging them to chase their dreams. They need that encouragement.
Support them and Cheer Them On.
Dad naturally spent tons of time challenging their sons. As Dads, we have to embrace that role. Mom, that opens a door for you to step in and be a needed voice of encouragement for them. Kids need both. They need challenge and they need encouragement. When moms embrace that role they breath confidence in them.
Boys Need you to Keep Showing Up.
As kids grow older it’s easy for Moms to withdraw. Your son does not need you to pull away from them. Your son needs you to keep showing up for them in creative ways that allow them to have their space but also know you care deeply. Keep showing up at their events. Keep writing them notes on hectic weeks. Keep texting them scripture leading them toward Jesus. Don’t allow them growing older to keep you from showing up in their life.
Speak Truth but Never Nag.
Your son needs you to be honest with them. You have things you see in your son that need to be challenged and they need you to speak truth. What they don’t need is nagging. Tell them once and then walk away. Don’t gripe and nag on them until you get results because in the process you lose their heart. Speak truth in love and be clear about what you expect.
Listen to Them and Help them Learn to Process their Emotions.
Here is where you have such an advantage as a mom! Your son needs you to help them learn to express and understand their emotions. When you slow down and give your son a listening ear consistently you slowly teach them to confront their emotions and process them out loud. Your son will have such an advantage in life if they know they have a person in their corner they can trust to listen and they learn from you to get those emotions out.
Mom, all 4 of these steps are things any mom can do. Thanks for investing in your sons intentionally this month.
Texts/Tweets
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Tweet One: Stop trying to protect your boy, and, instead, challenge them toward adventure and self-discovery. #boymom #parenting #momlife
Tweet Two: Boys are looking to figure out who they are & what adventure they can go on. They need someone to breathe belief into their insecure souls.
Tweet Three: Moms, invest intentional time with your boys now, and you will reap the returns of your interest in the future. #mominvestment #motherhood
Tweet Four: Mom, breathe confidence into your sons so they can breathe in their Godly calling for manhood. #mom #motherhood #momlife #Godscalling #sons
Tweet Five: Moms that show up in their son’s life now will have sons that continue to show back up in their lives later. #momlife #showup #mothers
Tweet Six: Trade nagging for speaking truth in love to your children. #nomorenags #mom #dad #parenting #parentlife #speaktruth #love