Dads and Daughters
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Subject Line: Dads and Daughters, Part One
Hello Parents, and Happy Father’s Day month.
I just wanted to say, right off the top, thank you dads! Those of you who are receiving this and are a dad to one of our wonderful kids, thank you. Whether you are a grandfather, stepfather, or even an uncle, you are a ‘dad’ in God’s eyes. The spiritual role that you play is so important to the boys and girls of our church.In honor of you, this month’s Online Parenting Class is for you.
Last month’s virtual encouragement was for Mothers, specifically to their relationship with their son. This month, we are flipping the script and talking about dads connecting to the heart of their daughter!
This is such a huge thing in our current culture and the climate of our society. The conversation in the news and media is all around the idea of women being valued and not demeaned. Whether you are watching this video as a dad or a mom, these quick hints are HUGE for the young girls of our group. Please take the time to watch and think through these and other ways to connect to your daughter’s heart.
We want our young girls that are growing into women to know and understand a healthy relationship with the men in their life. It starts through their relationship with their dad or a Godly man in their life.
Moms: We know that not every girl in our group has a dad in her life, so let us know how we can come alongside them (and you as parents). We are always seeking ways to build into them Godly self-image and set them up to be the women God has set them up to be! Let us know how we can encourage your daughter and your family!
https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/257632682/af60c47729
In Him,
Children’s Pastor
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Subject Line: Dads and Daughters, Part 2
Greetings, Moms and Dads!
Mother’s Day was last month, and now this month is Father’s Day! Let’s celebrate the wonderful men in our lives! I hope you are planning on doing something special for the dads in your life, and dads, I hope your family is planning somethings great for you! Fingers crossed for a great new tie!!?
Last month, we shared a great monthly Online Parenting Class with you about Moms connecting to their sons. This month, since it is Father’s Day month, we are sharing some quick helpful words about dads connecting with their daughters!
There is such great, simple, but powerful wisdom in the steps that were shared. Let me add a little bit extra to keep the challenge going. Think through each suggestion using these questions:
- Take them out on simple and fun dates and adventures.
o Where would your daughter want to go on a “date” if she could choose?
o Where was your first date? Would you be willing to share that with your daughter? - Have intentional conversations every day. (It’s ok to leverage tech!)
o When was the last time you sat down with your daughter, just the two of you, and had an intentional heart to heart talk? - Let them know you love them and they are beautiful as much as possible!
o When was the last time your intentionally told your daughter you loved her and she was beautiful? - Listen to them when they are hurting.
o What is hurting your daughter’s heart right now?
o When was the last time she cried about something that was not a physical hurt?
Dads (and moms), these years are so important for your young daughter. Please take and make the time to spend with them, getting to know their heart.
Serving Our Heavenly Father-
Children’s Pastor
Video Script
Dads and Daughters
There is a special bond between a daughter and their dad. It’s a connection that happens over time, and it’s so magical. Daughters see in their dad a picture of what a man should be. I know that puts a ton of pressure on us as dads, but, trust me, daughters don’t need perfection. Daughters need dads that will be authentically present in their lives.
This month in our online parenting class we want to talk to dads and process together how dads can connect with the heart of their daughters. If you are a mom and you usually watch these for your family this is a month you want to mention to dad!
If you are a dad and you are watching your little girl move into older elementary school you are probably already overwhelmed with how they are changing. If you are a dad of a middle or high schooler you wonder if they need or want you around at all. To both sets of dads I am here to boldly declare this truth…
Your daughters need you more now than ever.
I know they don’t tell you they need you and most of the time they act like they don’t want you around, but your daughters need your stable presence in their life right now. I know this makes you a little uncomfortable, but getting out of your comfort zone and fighting for the hart of your daughter now will pave the way for them to make better choices down the road because you have bravely let them know you believe in them, love them, and will protect them.
How do you fight for your daughters heart? Here are a few simple steps any dad can make to build that bridge to their heart…
Take them out on simple and fun dates and adventures.
What is their favorite restaurant? Take them there to eat dinner or breakfast before school. Who is their favorite band? Buy tickets to the next show and take her. What does she love to do? Make plans even if it’s taking her to the mall for a quick trip, and you hate shopping. Give your daughter the gift of your time and the gift of adventure.
Have intentional conversations everyday. (It’s ok to leverage tech!)
I know we dads don’t enjoy talking as much as mom, but our daughters need us to engage them. Check in on them. Shoot that daily text. Take time after work to see how their day went. Ask how you can be praying for them. Even if it’s short, make time to talk everyday.
Let them know you love them and they are beautiful as much as possible!
This is critical. They need to hear you say you love them everyday. They need you to build their confidence by letting them know how beautiful they are. They don’t need to hear those things more from a dumb boy at school than they do from you. Your words of care and love matter!
Listen to them when they are hurting.
Don’t allow mom to be the only one talking your daughter through trouble and pain. Make sure your daughter can have time to process with you. I know you don’t have answers but you can listen. That’s all they want anyway!
These are 4 things any dad can do. Your daughter needs you to fight for her heart! Praying for you as you invest in your daughters.
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Tweet Two: Getting out of your comfort zone and fighting for the heart of your daughter now will pave the way for them to make better choices down the road. #dad #daughter #pavetheway #girltowoman #comfortzone #parenting #fatherhood
Tweet Three: You daughter needs her daddy to take her on her first date, to set the expectations high for those “other” guys in her future. #daddate #daddy #dating #fatherhood #dad #daughter #parenting
Tweet Four: Dads and daughter need to have intentional conversations ever day to stay connected to each other. #talk #connect #dad #daughter #parenting #convos #intentionalparenting
Tweet Five: Even if it’s short, make time to talk every day to let your daughter know you love them and they are beautiful in your eyes. #dad #daughter #beauty #talk #saythewords #connected #hearttalk
Tweet Six: Dads-connecting to the heart of your daughter happens through listening to them in the good times and in the bad. #dad #father #daddyhood #fatherhood #listen #daughterheart